The Ex Factor

 

What happens in the past, doesn’t stay in the past. It in fact haunts you in every relationship and makes you undateable. Harsh? Quite. But unfortunately, who you’ve called boo in ‘06 affects who you’re calling baby now. 

Have you ever wondered why he just had to do you wrong? Well here’s the answer: some shallow, naive bimbo back in high school slept with his friend. Okay, maybe this isn’t the situation in every case, but let’s just run with it. That scumbag of a girlfriend made him a douchebag of a boyfriend and you’re in his line of ego-bruised fire. Even worse, you leave the relationship with a singed butt. Now you have your arrows lit. It’s a bad chain of reactions I like to call “the ex factor.” The way your ex treated you in the relationship you two shared will play a role in every relationship to come...unfortunately.

I was recently propositioned by a fairly suitable young gentleman to enter a relationship with him, yet I turned him down. The first thing that crossed my mind? “Why would I ever commit myself to you when all men cheat?” Two Fouls. One: I made a generalization based on the actions of my exes. Two: I was about to turn down this poor young man who was only seeking companionship. Shame on me. Of course I didn’t get into a relationship. I will always have my reservations. That's a problem. Will I ever be able to let go of what my exes did? Yes...once I’m ready to throw a band-aid on that burn mark and let it heal.

Remember ladies, it’s an A & B relationship, leave your ex out. ;-)