C.R.U.S.H.

Creating reasons to linger from afar

Resisting a potentially fulfilling urge

Unnecessary secrecy between your mind and your heart

Second guessing your attraction level

Hoping for something that won’t happen unless you act

Gushing over that suave, ridiculously talented alpha male that every other girl wants to bed may seem appealing when one is experiencing bouts of acne and an identity crisis. However, when you’re old enough to know that that good looking guy probably sucks, no definitely sucks, that it’s quite foolish to secretly wish to be his wifey.

I am proud to say I adorn this ‘not-so-foolish’ sticker—usually. The other day, I found myself lingering on a certain someone’s Facebook page a little too long. He and I went to high school together. I was not the girl that sat behind him and doodled are future children’s names in math class—another facially perfect jock held that position at the time. I actually had no interest in him during the days I roamed the halls of the alcoholics, the puter-outers, and the socially awkward. Yet, there I was picturing myself on a Coldstone date with him chatting about our future. Was I crushing on this kid? No, it couldn’t be…okay I was. Is it wrong to crush though?

I’m the first person to tell anyone that if they want something they should go after it. And there I was mesmerized at the cuts in this guy’s stomach and doing nothing about it. By crushing, I’m protecting myself from making the first move, a potential let down, and worse: a bruise to the ego. However, by not clicking “Send (Like I’m going to tell you) a Message” I may be missing out on that Coldstone date.

What do you think? Is it okay for a woman to crush? Or should she step up and be a grown (expletive) woman?

Love's Symphony

Sometimes you heart beats so loud

That you can’t hear those thoughts

Those thoughts

Later categorized as

Life changing revelations

Sometimes your heart beats so loud

That blood pumping muscle

Shakes its cage loose

Loose from the confines of self protection

Out into the sea of companionship

Sometimes your heart beats so loud

You have to cover your ears

From the persuasion it spews

Those droplets of lies

That hit your face

That beat does burn

Sometimes your heart beats so loud

You urge to scream at the top of your lungs

Just to be heard

Sometimes your heart beats so loud

That the steady vibration seems to never cease

Like you’ve lost control

Sometimes your heart beats so loud

It breaks…

The Cougar in All of Us

As a female, I feel I possess a sound judgment, a maturity, and an intelligence level like no male I know my age. Having a conversation that consists of more than, “you got any kids?” or “so what you like to do for fun?” on the first date is rare. Is there someone out there who I can discuss Obama’s health care plan with? Someone who has hobbies that exclude Madden and NBA Live?  I know many ladies can agree with me on this one. Because of this, we as women so eagerly seek “the older man.” Why? Well let’s weigh the pluses…

Older men are:

o   More financially stable

o   Somewhat equal in maturity level

o   More likely to have adult interests

o   More seasoned in the dating game

I, as well as many of my girls, have dipped into the pool of “the older man” and what have we discovered? They are the chest hair-having, slightly more articulate, full-time job possessing version of themselves 5+ years ago. Thus, nothing special.

No woman usually desires a younger man unless she’s over the age of forty and has suffered a vicious divorce that has caused her to look at her son’s friends. As a young woman, I cannot say I’ve experienced this wretchedness. However, I can talk about those experiences when walking into a corner store, strolling past a footlocker, or curiously observing the new freshmen on campus that I’ve said to myself, “Ooh that little boy is cute!” Shame on me, right? Wrong! You have been a victim of it and so have I: the desire to be a cougar. And I’m not talking about the Demi Moore-Ashton Kutcher kind.

Cougar, n.

-a young woman that wants an even younger man.

Why? Well, young men naturally cling to us women who have our (expletive) together. So why not take advantage of this? After all, they’re fun, impressionable, and have a boyish charm that just melt’s your heart. Time to pounce, ladies.